When to get help checklist:

• I keep getting involved with the same type of people over and over.
• I can’t tell anyone how I really feel.
• I use alcohol, drugs or sex to dull emotional pain (or my partner does.)
• I have been diagnosed as having an STD and I am monogamous.  I don’t understand.
• My partner is abusive to me and/or I lash out at my partner uncontrollably.
• I like to stay busy, because if I allow myself to sit down and get still, my feelings may overwhelm me.
• I have trouble sleeping.
• I eat when I’m not hungry to comfort myself.
• My partner does not meet my needs (or my partner is unhappy that I don’t meet his/her needs.)
• I feel disconnected from myself at times.
• I often feel anxious, sad, or depressed, and I don’t know why.
• I find myself exhibiting anger at others that is out of proportion to the situation.
• I want to stop my compulsive sexual behavior, but I can’t, even though I have tried.
• I feel my partner is demanding & controlling, but I put up with it because I’m afraid he or she will leave.
• I feel I have to compete with the computer to get my partner’s attention.
• I suspect my partner is unfaithful, but I can’t prove it.  He/she tells me I’m imagining things.  I don’t know what to believe or how to act  anymore.
• If people really knew me, they wouldn’t love me.
• “We’re always fighting and/or yelling, but we never really talk.”
• I spend too much time on the internet.
• I have a history of being abused as a child.
• My childhood caregiver(s) either had or still have a problem with addiction(s).
• I come from a rigid family that never talked about what was REALLY going on.
• I grew up in a strict religion that emphasized God's wrath and punishment.
• I'm living a double life.